By : Julie Ryan
This story is based on an article I read called “30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself.” As I read it, I couldn’t help but think just how true so many of them are and that certain ones are especially appropriate for those of us suffering from fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue syndrome and other debilitating conditions.
Here are 16 things I believe those of us with fibromyalgia need to stop doing:
1. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner.
If you have any sort of chronic debilitating condition, you need to put your own needs first. Even if you are the healthiest person on the planet, you shouldn’t let your needs go to the back of the line. Since fibromyalgia is most common among women, this is especially true as women seem to be told that their needs should come last after their husband, children, church, jobs, volunteer efforts and anything else that could possibly come before themselves. It’s any wonder we give ourselves any time at all; sadly, too many of us don’t.
2. Stop spending time with the wrong people.
If someone is adding stress to your life, that stress is making you sick. Remove the stress by removing that person. You may not be able to completely remove them, but you can choose to avoid them when possible.
3. Stop holding grudges.
Holding a grudge is an unnecessary stress. It causes us to create negative thoughts about a person and focus only on those negative thoughts when we should be trying to find ways to focus on more positive things. Let go of the grudge. You’ll still think of the person on occasion, but when you do, just shrug it off and replace it with a thought of someone you care about who makes you smile.
4. Stop trying to be everything to everyone.
The ability to say no is highly underrated. Too often those of us with fibromyalgia are unable to say no, feeling guilty when we can’t or won’t say yes. We can’t be everything to everyone — we can’t even be everything to ourselves, and we don’t have to be.